Today, I can easily say that I have never been happier, and I have never felt more positive about every SINGLE part of my life (even the bad parts). Anxiety no longer controls me. I no longer worry about irrelevant things, or worry too much about what people think of me - and it is all thanks to one simple thing - positive thinking.
But this isn't about me - this is about YOU. Ask yourself, are you really and truly happy? Or does something hold you back? If, when you read the first paragraph, you thought to yourself, ‘That's well for ya’ Katy, but that's just not realistic, that's not how my life is, or ever will be’ ‘there's too much negative stuff in my life to be that positive’ or ‘oh that's not me - i'm just not like that’ then PLEASE read on.
We all know what positive thinking is, but have you ever made an effort to really practice it?
We've all put time into practicing a hobby, a sport, driving a car, etc, so why don't we practice being happy? We all know that in order to get good at something and make it a part of our daily lifestyle, it starts out as a challenge, and over time, with enough practice it becomes a part of who you are. Positive thinking is no different, and is something anyone can do.
If you find that you are a negative person (or maybe you’re a positive person but think very negatively) it doesn't mean this is who you are, or the way you will always be, it's just the way you are currently thinking right now. You can decide to become more positive, and change your entire life by simply practicing positive thinking.
All you have to do is...well, think positive!
Sounds so simple doesn't it? But for a lot of people it can be an incredibly hard thing to do.
We get so used to speaking negatively to ourselves, criticizing ourselves, wishing we were different, slimmer, richer, more organised, more caring, a better listener, less selfish, happier, heck - more positive! We worry about the future - the bills we have to pay, the hangovers, the rent that's due, dying! We worry about the past - the friends we let down, the bad food we ate, the workout we missed, the work we didn't get done and so on. The future has not happened yet, and the past cannot be changed - so why is it that we spend ALL of our time RIGHT NOW thinking about it, ruining the only thing that we do have - which is this very moment.
We get so used to negativity that it becomes normal - in fact it is SO much more normal than positivity. Sometimes we even begin to enjoy negativity - getting sympathy. For some, negativity can become their identity.
But there is nothing holding you back from changing this, except you. A simple decision. To think positively.
So, how do we do it?
Well the first thing to do is start becoming a little bit more aware of yourself & your thoughts. Start by trying to notice the negativity. Start spotting it & what causes it. It is this act of being aware that takes your mind away from the past & future and makes you focus on the present!! And then when you are here, try switch the thought to a positive one!
For example, if you are annoyed for eating that slice of pizza last night that you didn't plan on eating, try look at all the good food you did eat that week, and focus on the more positive side of things. Realise its in the past, so draw a line and focus on the present, and something you can do NOW that's positive!
Here is a great exercise I get my clients to start with, which you should try too: When you wake every morning, before you get out of bed, close your eyes and think of one or two things that you are really grateful for in your life. Let that something bring a smile to your face, and enjoy the happiness it brings to your body. Starting your day on a positive note can have a HUGE impact on your day.
As I said, it is a slow process, and some days thinking positively is harder than others (and some days you just don't bloody want to!!) But the option is always there (and it’s always the better option)
If at the start, it takes you a month of negativity to remember ‘oh shit - I forgot about that whole positive thinking buzz’ - that's ok, you are now aware again, and so from here, keep going. The more and more you remind yourself, the less often you begin to have to. As time goes by, and you are shifting negative thoughts into positive ones more often, the switch becomes more familiar and easier, and thus you are in a more positive mindframe more often.
And voila - you are a more positive person. Granted, nobody is positive ALL of the time (well that I know - I know I sure still have my down days) But patience, practice and positivity are the key.
Why not do it right now? yes NOW! Stop reading this article after this paragraph - Close your eyes - stop thinking about the future & worrying about the past, be fully in the moment, smile and think positive. :)
See, you're already a much happier version of yourself!
If you liked this sort of blog post, please make sure to let me know - I do a lot of this sort of stuff with my classes & clients, but i'm new to the blog writing scene. So I would love to hear from you if found this post useful! :)
Thanks for reading peeps - keep smiling :)
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